[reality is friendly]  

Or...

stress     

e.g.

funeral   let emotions come

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Only reason we reject reality or try to fight it is...             STRESS FORCES like fear, compulsive desire and anger

These do this by

1) conjuring illusions/ distorting our perception     as in    rose-tinted spectacles

AND

2) putting us ill at ease with reality        fear it       get angry with it       desire it        find it depressing

Now, stress and compulsion (courtesy of the drivers behind “carrot and stick”, namely compulsive desire, fear and anger) can end up as an ever more popular choice, allied to a declared sense of perpetual crisis - by way of “justification”. To quote George Orwell, "...war is not meant to be won, it is meant to be continuous".

Unfortunately, just as war can be viewed as a dead end, coercion and compulsion via “carrot and stick”, compulsive desire, fear and anger do nothing to help us realise our greatest levels of happiness, health or motivation.